QUICK WAYS TO REPAIR BROKEN RELATIONSHIP.
HOW TO REPAIR BROKEN RELATIONSHIP.
As believer God has called us to settle our relationship with each other. It's not easy,it takes a lot of effort to repair broken fellowship. But when you work for peace you are doing what God would do. Here are seven biblical steps to restore relationship.
TALK TO GOD BEFORE TALKING TO MAN.
No one can fulfill your needs except God. Never discuss the problem with man,talk to God before. All your relationship will be moving smoothly provided you can pray about it. Tell God your frustrations, anxieties, etc in prayer. If you expect friend,relative,boss or anyone to meet your needs that God only can fulfill you are only inviting disappointment.
It's sadly nowadays,when instead of Christians looking to God for happy life they rather expect man and got angry when they fail us.
James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? 4:2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
Before you will take any action ask God first in everything.
Related.http://christainliffe.blogspot.com/2017/12/why-you-need-to-keep-your-relationship.html?m=1
ALWAYS TAKE THE INITIAVE.
Genuine beleiver don't wait to expect his fellow to come to apologize him or her irrespective being offender or offended. Peace makers are the real children of God.Anytime conflict arises, make sure you let peace prevail after everything. Don't make any unnecessary excuses, procrastinations and promises to solve it tomorrow or next week. Restoring broken relationship is so important so don't wait other party, go to them first. Delay only deepens resentment and makes matters worse.In conflict time heals nothing only causes hurts to fester.
SYMPATHISE WUTH THEIR FEELINGS.
when relationship is strained or broken, firstly, don't speak, of course keep mute. Let your ears work more than your mouth. Apostle James said " fast to hear but slow to speak. Before making attempting to solve a disagreement listen to other people's feelings. Don't try to talk people out of how they feel at first. Just listen and let them unload emotionally without being defensive. To restore fellowship, " we must bear the burden of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others... Let's please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good.
CONFESS YOUR PART OF THE CONFLICT. As believer if you are really serious to restore relationship, you must first admit you own faults and sin. This the reason God spoke in Matthew 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
Confession is a great tool for restoring relationship and reconciliation. Always the way we handle conflict creates a bigger hurt than the original problem it self.when you begin by humbly admitting your own mistakes,it defuses the other's anger and disarms their attack because they were probably expecting you to be defensive. Don't make excuses or shift the blame, just honestly own up to any part you have played in the conflict. Accept the responsibility and ask for forgiveness.
ATTACK THE PROBLEM NOT THE PERSON.
In reconciliation conflict,how you say it's important as what you say. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. Bible tell us that " A wise mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words,the more persuasive he is". You cannot fix the problem if you're are consumed with fixing the blame. You must select between the two. The Bible tell us " A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire .
Related http://christainliffe.blogspot.com/2017/12/things-to-do-to-sustain-your.html?m=1
COOPERATE AS MUSH AS POSSIBLE.
How do you understand why Apostle Paul said "Do everything possible on your part to live in Peace with everybody. Peace alway has a price tag.sometimes it cost our pride. For the sake of fellowships, do your best to compromise, adjust to others,and shows preference to what they need.
EMPHASIZE RECONCILIATION, NOT RESOLUTION.
It's not prudent to seek everyone to agree about everything. Reconciliation aims at the relationship but resolution focuses on the problem. When you rely on the reconciliation the problem loses significance and often becomes irrelevant. Brethren can reestablish relationship even when they are unable yo resolve the differences. God seek to unity not uniformity. But that does not mean stop finding a solution. You need to find solutions but in a spirit and harmonious way.
#Shalom
As believer God has called us to settle our relationship with each other. It's not easy,it takes a lot of effort to repair broken fellowship. But when you work for peace you are doing what God would do. Here are seven biblical steps to restore relationship.
TALK TO GOD BEFORE TALKING TO MAN.
No one can fulfill your needs except God. Never discuss the problem with man,talk to God before. All your relationship will be moving smoothly provided you can pray about it. Tell God your frustrations, anxieties, etc in prayer. If you expect friend,relative,boss or anyone to meet your needs that God only can fulfill you are only inviting disappointment.
It's sadly nowadays,when instead of Christians looking to God for happy life they rather expect man and got angry when they fail us.
James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? 4:2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
Before you will take any action ask God first in everything.
Related.http://christainliffe.blogspot.com/2017/12/why-you-need-to-keep-your-relationship.html?m=1
ALWAYS TAKE THE INITIAVE.
Genuine beleiver don't wait to expect his fellow to come to apologize him or her irrespective being offender or offended. Peace makers are the real children of God.Anytime conflict arises, make sure you let peace prevail after everything. Don't make any unnecessary excuses, procrastinations and promises to solve it tomorrow or next week. Restoring broken relationship is so important so don't wait other party, go to them first. Delay only deepens resentment and makes matters worse.In conflict time heals nothing only causes hurts to fester.
SYMPATHISE WUTH THEIR FEELINGS.
when relationship is strained or broken, firstly, don't speak, of course keep mute. Let your ears work more than your mouth. Apostle James said " fast to hear but slow to speak. Before making attempting to solve a disagreement listen to other people's feelings. Don't try to talk people out of how they feel at first. Just listen and let them unload emotionally without being defensive. To restore fellowship, " we must bear the burden of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others... Let's please the other fellow, not ourselves, and do what is for his good.
CONFESS YOUR PART OF THE CONFLICT. As believer if you are really serious to restore relationship, you must first admit you own faults and sin. This the reason God spoke in Matthew 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
Confession is a great tool for restoring relationship and reconciliation. Always the way we handle conflict creates a bigger hurt than the original problem it self.when you begin by humbly admitting your own mistakes,it defuses the other's anger and disarms their attack because they were probably expecting you to be defensive. Don't make excuses or shift the blame, just honestly own up to any part you have played in the conflict. Accept the responsibility and ask for forgiveness.
ATTACK THE PROBLEM NOT THE PERSON.
In reconciliation conflict,how you say it's important as what you say. If you say it offensively, it will be received defensively. Bible tell us that " A wise mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words,the more persuasive he is". You cannot fix the problem if you're are consumed with fixing the blame. You must select between the two. The Bible tell us " A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire .
Related http://christainliffe.blogspot.com/2017/12/things-to-do-to-sustain-your.html?m=1
COOPERATE AS MUSH AS POSSIBLE.
How do you understand why Apostle Paul said "Do everything possible on your part to live in Peace with everybody. Peace alway has a price tag.sometimes it cost our pride. For the sake of fellowships, do your best to compromise, adjust to others,and shows preference to what they need.
EMPHASIZE RECONCILIATION, NOT RESOLUTION.
It's not prudent to seek everyone to agree about everything. Reconciliation aims at the relationship but resolution focuses on the problem. When you rely on the reconciliation the problem loses significance and often becomes irrelevant. Brethren can reestablish relationship even when they are unable yo resolve the differences. God seek to unity not uniformity. But that does not mean stop finding a solution. You need to find solutions but in a spirit and harmonious way.
#Shalom
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